Leap of faith
There is no problem that cannot be solved. May be we will find half of the solution or may be we will solve a quarter of it. Nevertheless, it is possible to tackle a problem, mold it with our best practices, perceive it as a way out and finally win over it without losing much sleep over it.
Grief, sorrow, loss, pain, anger and insecurities are some of the driving forces to our breaking point. It is difficult to express these emotions since we have to allow someone into our personal space. We are so reluctant to seek help thinking it would cast us as a weak person. This thought cannot be far from being wrong.
Strong people realize their shortcomings, acknowledge it, accept the possibility of the extent to which they can make it work for them and embrace the rest. Do not confuse being emotional with having a weakness. At the same time, do not let your emotions over power your mind. Knowing the sacred difference between the two will save you from taking a trip or two to hell and back. First allow me to express what I feel about being strong.
Your strength can be your weakness. Strong people generally do not toy around with their weaknesses since they are wise to understand how much control they can exercise over it. You should know your control over certain things and evaluate it in terms of adding value to your life. If that job is mentally draining for you, weigh your pros and cons and act accordingly. Do not simply sit and crib about the problems because they will not go away on their own. Only you can do that. It is also important to know that we can control only so little that is around ourselves. From building good habits to taking the stairs instead of the elevator, these are a few conscious considerations we can control that too if we do not procrastinate. The big things or the big games in life, hardly ever let themselves be fully under our supervision since the universe likes its way with surprises. The only thing that can make you feel at peace is knowing that almost everyone is at this disadvantage. You are not alone. You might be extraordinary but you are not alone.
Addressing the second part of the sacred wisdom. Take responsibility for whatever happens to you. This will save you from the unending circle of vicious blame game which will drain you of your peace of mind. Suppose you allow someone to share your personal space, so much so that you get attached to him/her. God forbid if things do not work out the way you had hoped for (which happens more often than we think), do not blame yourself for opening yourself to another person. There is always something good to be found in a seemingly overwhelming situation and that might not happen right in the moment. However, in hindsight you will realize how much you were able to learn and grow from those experiences. Even if things go wrong, it is never a waste. The time you spend with the people you care about, is rather a blessing even if it is short lived. Do not be hard on yourself by restricting and confining your emotions so as to prevent another episode of the same kind. The chances of things going wrong will always be greater than the opposite. You are not alone. Everyone feels like this. And everyone is afraid to speak up. Lend your kind words to someone and let them lend theirs to you. The unadulterated joy of sharing bad experiences is unmatched to the sudden drastic steps you might think of otherwise.
The second part can also be lived differently. If you want to conserve your energy and peace of mind without allowing many people an access to your space, be responsible for the consequences. Do so only if you find joy and happiness in doing it. Do not give in to something with the thought that it will prevent all the wrongs from happening to you. Good people are capable of doing bad things and bad people are capable of turning their life around for good. Be sure to take any step that you have thought out carefully. Do not be reckless in making decisions, they can cost you a lot more than what you might be capable of giving. Even if you find yourself in the middle of a mess, do not bother going deep into the shit by over thinking about it since rarely does it help. Assure yourself that you are not alone. Every one is a little confused, a little lost. It does not imply every one has to be in a bad space.
A friendly reminder to what you can do by yourself to make yourself feel comfortable and better. Everyone deserves a chance to express themselves the best way they can. The world can feel a very lonely place sometimes. We all experience such moment of lows. Here are a few things to be mindful about :
1. Do yourself a favor and find your comfort person(s). You will find great strength and happiness in their presence.
2. Your comfort person(s) will acknowledge your shortcomings and look past it. They would do so since they will know that you are much more than that. This very single thought of assurance sometimes makes or breaks a person.
3. Please speak to people if it bothers you. There are many forums which are present to help you organize your thoughts and listen to your stories. Do your research and find out about them and seek help. You owe yourself a peace of mind.
4. Do not take things or people very seriously. Accept them as they come or let go of them as they wish. It probably will not make much difference to your life in the next 5 years.
5. You do not always need a partner to lean on. Your comfort person can be your mother, your sister, your friend, an acquaintance, your dog or even a tree. Talk to anyone who makes you feel better, that’s the trick.
6. Lastly, find the courage to accept and love yourself before and beyond anyone ❤
Best wishes to every one who sees this. Until next time, Readers :)
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